Last week I had an afternoon that really drove home exactly what I mean when I use the phrase "calm amidst the chaos" I was driving our dog Sunny to the vet. He is an adult dog who was rescued in Puerto Rico and we adopted him just six weeks before. It was the second time I have him in the car and it was the first time his dog sister Maggie wasn't with him. He was shaking and barking in the car. I felt so awful for him, but I knew it had to happen so I turned up the volume on my music and tried to pretend it wasn't happening.
We were about a minute from the vet when I realized he had pooped in the car. As soon as I pulled into a spot and stopped the car - hoping to keep from laying or stepping in it - he laid right down and refused to move.
Meanwhile, my phone rang and it was staffing at my per diem job and that created some stress for me. It probably wouldn't have normally but I was in less ideal circumstances.
The vet tech then called to do the intake for Sunny. I am so grateful that when I asked the her if she could give me something to clean him with, she brought me things to clean my car with and she took him in to clean him up.
About 15minutes later the doctor came out to talk to me, then the tech brought Sunny back to me a few minutes later.
He is not great at getting in the car, but I was really pleased he got himself halfway in the car. I went to go help him but my phone rang at the same time. It was my doctor, and I had been waiting all afternoon to talk to her.
So I answered the phone. Scared Sunny. He jumped away from my car. Almost got out of his harness. As I was putting him back into the harness I had to wrestle him a little bit. As a (new) rescued adult dog I do not touch him like that normally. But for his safety I just had to do it. So he snapped at me. Meanwhile I'm still on the phone with my doctor telling her "no no, now is a totally fine time!" ... because we all know how hard it can be to get on the phone with your doctor.
So I stood in the middle of the parking lot with my dog barking frantically and trying to take his own harness off....while I was on the phone with my doctor discussing my personal medical information.
Naturally, I was stressed when I got in the car. It was a pretty eventful and overwhelming hour.
I was in a mood driving home. But I got Sunny inside, said hello to our other dog Maggie, and took a few deep breaths. As stressful as it all was, everyone was safe (and clean). I managed to cross several tasks off my list in an hour (including giving the dog a bath).
It's not that the stressful things didn't happen. Nor is it that I did not feel the effects of the stress. I can find the humor in it now, but I'm not interested in repeating it. We are all human. I'm here as proof that I don't expect my clients to find perfection and that I believe that we can find ways to not get completely derailed when life is shitty (pun intended, couldn't help myself). Last week I was reading the book "The Therapeutic Yoga Kit" and came across the following
"Stress itself cannot be avoided, it is a natural part of life but having a practice to meet the stress and diffuse it is central to how we fare through it"
You will never hear me say 'just relax' (unless I'm mocking the statement) because it's not that easy. And it's not that helpful.
You will experience stress and it's real and normal. And it is possible to find some calm amidst all of the chaos.
There is a science to finding freedom from pain - and I believe that everybody's science is unique. I know that I can best serve you with personalized guidance, support, and accountability to put it into action. I have strategies that you can find in an e-book that I have written, which can be downloaded here. If you feel like you need more personalized guidance, I do offer free 30minute strategy sessions where we can get clear on where you want to be, what is getting in the way of getting there, and how you can find a clear path forward. That can be scheduled here.